One of the things you might find is the frequent delicious aroma of baking coming from your kitchen. Subconsciously, the use of baking as therapy appears to be a something the person who is depressed loves to do and the only downside is you can be woken up in the middle of the night by the noise or be left to find an untidy kitchen in the morning. Be grateful your loved one is active and doing sometime productive. Yes, well, in a way it is productive. The cakes or biscuits might cause you to put on a few pounds.
You can also steer him or her gently to baking healthier options. Again good memories are being planted so when you go out shopping, just replenish your cupboard with baking goods.
Copyright: Susanna Dziworshie 25/07/2018
Today’s act of kindness is to LISTEN. From this desire to listen must come the ability to be SILENT. You cannot listen to the other person if you talk too. You will find that when someone who is depressed wants to open up, it can be like a tap has just been opened. You can ENLIST your inner strength to help you to be quiet and listen. The temptation is there to try and correct things said that differ from your memory or perspective of them.
At a later time when reflecting on all that you have heard, you can then enlist your wisdom as to what help you need to access. It is an act to LISTEN, your SILENT prayer or meditation can ENLIST resources and strength you didn’t realise you had.
Psalm 143:1 ” Lord hear my prayer, listen to my cry for mercy, in your faithfulness and righteousness come to my relief.”
Copyright Susanna Dziworshie 18/07/2018
Holy Bible New International Version
How to Listen, Learn, Laugh and Lead :The Virgin Way by Richaerd Branson.
An introduction to a topic I really want to write about, this topic is depression and it will be from an angle wisdom gleaned by observing situations in my professional and personal life. l shall write it as a weekly post. You assume that in the family setting you can and should be open and honest about your lives and worries. However, it is not always easy for the person going through depression to tell you about their problem. Even if they do it might not be in a way you can comprehend, recognise or relate to. In my experience, through observation of each others everyday behaviour, as one does, you can know patterns and these can be used to recognise the beginning of a shift from the norm in the physical or emotional persona or in their mindset.
Whether the person is undergoing treatment by a psychiatrist, having counselling or neither, but relying on the love and care of family and friends, little acts of kindness do help. Specifically, it’s about planting happy memories, which then go a long way to helping in their recovery. You might be thinking, but the source of each person’s depression is different, just remember, love and kindness make a big difference to all of us, no matter our problem. You probably won’t like to do this but out of love you must.
Lesson One:- Using meal times to communicate and reaffirming you care. Never forget to greet or say hello anytime and but don’t overdo it.
For example, saying “Good morning, how are you? I have your breakfast. I pray you feel better today. and I am here to listen ” makes a lot of difference even though you might not see it straight away.
Even if you are not allowed inside the room or the person is not getting out of bed at the usual times, leave the tray of food by the door and give that information too.
Copyright: Susanna Dziworshie 10/07/2018